Couples Therapy
Helping couples rekindle their passion and connection
Life brings us many ups and downs but when one of those "downs" is our primary relationship it can be scary. Most people who start Couples Therapy feel stuck repeating the same painful patterns.
Do any of the following communication cycles sound familiar?
You avoid the difficult conversations for fear of upsetting your partner and now you recognize the resentment growing.
You feel stuck in negativity and push your partner away even though you long to be close like when you first got together.
You know there are some things you are not talking about and it didn’t seem like a big deal at first but you are noticing that your sex life has slowly taken a turn for the worse.
You and your partner often become defensive and/or critical instead of getting to issues you so want to address.
Your efforts to make things better often lead to another argument.
If any of these patterns sound true for you, I want you to know that many couples worry it might mean their relationship is deficient in some way. They fear that therapy might expose those cracks and what they will find. But often to their delight, couples can feel the foundation of the relationship strengthened as they address some of their long-standing issues and come to see therapy as another tool in their toolbox.
We often prioritize work, children, and extended family, assuming our love will be enough to weather the difficult times, but your relationship deserves and also needs to be prioritized. You don't have to accept the status quo, and your relationship will thank you.
Feel like you can take on the world (or at least that pile of laundry on the floor), knowing you have your partner at your side.
It’s possible to feel better. Imagine a relationship where you could...
Learn communication tools that will benefit all your relationships but especially the one with your partner.
Have a passionate sex life where you can openly share your wants and desires.
Handle everyday challenges together even when you have different ideas on how to get there.
Improve your trust and strengthen the foundation of your relationship.
Build the loving relationship you've always wanted.
Couples Therapy can help you learn to lean toward each other when faced with challenges, and see your differences of opinion as opportunities to grow closer together as you get to know each other more deeply.
You will learn a new way of approaching your differences.
Fulfill your dreams and take those risks in life knowing that your partner has your back.
For the last six years I have worked primarily with couples, many of them unsatisfied, resentful, and confused about how to change their relationship dynamic. In their commitment to the process and each other, many have found the change they were looking for and a renewed sense of hope and excitement for their future.
How Couples Therapy Works
Depending on where you are at in your relationship journey and what you are wanting, I recommend we start with 60- 90 minute weekly sessions, and then transition to every other week when you feel ready. In addition to listening, I will be very active in the sessions and I will be providing a lot of feedback, guidance and I will challenge you to approach conversations in new ways. Here’s an overview:
To begin, I provide a safe, engaging space where we get to know each other and take an inventory of what is working in your relationship and what is not. A lot of couples are worried about what their partner is going to say about them but I set the process in a way that facilitates an open dialogue rather than finger pointing.
Through a series of in-session questionnaires, homework assignments and candid conversations, I will start to understand more about what stage your relationship is in and explain this to you.
We will start with addressing some of your immediate concerns like communication breakdowns, limit setting if needed, and crisis management if there has been a recent affair, substance abuse that has escalated, or a mental health challenge that is impacting the relationship in a new way.
Through our work we will discover what your individual goals are for your relationship making sure to identify what each of YOU are ready to take on.
Through my years of training at the Couples Institute with Couples Therapy pioneers Dr's. Ellyn Bader and Pete Pearson, I will be able to teach you a different way of thinking about how you communicate with each other. Keeping your unique goals in mind, we’ll figure out what’s needed to help you reach them.
Over the course of our work together, which isn’t usually easy but that doesn’t mean it isn’t fun, you will begin to see your relationship transform and become stronger and more alive.
Couples Therapy can positively change your thinking, beliefs, emotions, and behaviors. It can help you let go of what’s holding you back.
Let’s Get Started Today
Start now and rekindle your connection. Schedule a complimentary phone conversation to learn more about couples therapy now and we can start getting to know each other and discover how I can be of service.
Schedule a complimentary phone conversation by calling 323-800-4749, or email me at letta.lcsw@gmail.com today to learn more about couples therapy.